When Aidan asked for Carrie’s hand in marriage it was with the help of Samantha that he gave her this ring. The first one selected by Miranda was not really much of her and when she mentioned to the girls the ring she’s found out in Aidan’s gym bag and how it was no so like her. Miranda spilled out that it was her choice. Hahaha … I guess girlfriends are really helpful in things like this, they’re usually the ones who’d give the other party the hint as to what to get such as what type of flowers or what ring to choose from the engagement rings to select from. But that marriage didn’t push through but just the same the ring was well worth it.

Aws ain’t that sweet? A kiss under the rain!!

Free dating sites are rampant nowadays, some are intended for Christians or some are classified according to beliefs, nationalities, age and who knows what else. Dating online singles has been a boom since the spread of the world wide web, interracial dating which seemed to be a taboo in certain societies back then is now slowly being accepted by society today. Asians hook up with Americans and vise versa, through various dating sites the distance of so many million miles is no longer of any problem. Can still remember before how men and women who want to meet with anyone foreign would actually submit a photo and a bit of an introductory piece to a certain magazine who has a partner outside of the country to get what they call then as pen pals. Now with the advent of technology dating sites operated from all across the world are rampant, its usually for free and users can sign up post there photos, their blogs, sent messages to other users; bridging the miles making the world seem a smaller place. Most famous among these sites would be Flirtvibes, users browse through the profiles of other members, send winks, or messages and chat with them if they’re online. A growing community of people from all walks of life, so if dating in person is a bit difficult go do it online and before you start talking to the other singles check out tips and online dating advice from experts to avoid mishaps.

Falling In LoveFrom the book “Letters to my Son”by Kent Nerburn It is a mystery why we fall in love. It is a mystery how it happens. It is a mystery when it comes. It is a mystery why some love grows and it is a mystery why some love fails. You can analyze this mystery and look for reasons and causes, but you will never do anymore than take the life out of the experience. Just as life itself is more than the sum of the bones and muscles and electrical impulses in the body, love is more than the sum of the interests and attractions and commonalties that two people share. And just as life itself is a gift that comes and goes in its own time, so too, the coming of love must be taken as an unfathomable gift that cannot be questioned in its ways. Sometimes, hopefully at least once in your life - the gift of love will come to you in full flower, and you will take hold of it and celebrate it in all inexpressible beauty. This is the dream we all share. More often, it will come and take hold of you, celebrate you for a brief moment, then move on. When this happens to young people, they too often try to grasp the love and hold it to them, refusing to see that it is a gift that is freely given and a gift that just as freely, moves away. When they fall out of love, or the person they love feels the spirit of love leaving, they try desperately to reclaim the love that is lost rather than accepting the gift for what it was, then moving on. They want answers where there are no answers. They want to know what is wrong in them that make the other person no longer love them, or they try to get their lover to change, thinking that if some small things were different, love would bloom again. They blame their circumstances and say that if they go far away and start a new life together, their love will grow. They try anything to give meaning to what has happened. But there is no meaning beyond the love itself, and until they accept its own mysterious ways, they live in a sea of misery. You need to know this about love, and to accept it. You need to treat what it brings you with kindness. If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn’t choose to rest in the other person’s heart. If you find someone else in love with you and you don’t love him, feel honored that love came and called at your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return. Do not take advantage; do not cause pain. How you deal with love is how you deal with you, and all our hearts feel the same pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are different. If you fall in love with another, and he falls in love with you, and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or to assess blame. Let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know in time. Remember that you don’t choose love. Love chooses you. All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you. Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit. Give it to the world around you in anyway you can. There is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long without love, they understand love only as a need. They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love, and they begin to look at love as something that flows to them rather than from them. The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as a need. They cease to be someone who generates love and instead become someone who seeks love. They forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away. Remember this, and keep it to your heart. Love has its own time, its own seasons, and its own reason for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into staying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you. But if it chooses to leave from your heart or from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do. Love always has been and always will be a mystery. Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life. IF YOU KEEP YOUR HEART OPEN IT WILL COME AGAIN.

Sometimes at night,
When I look to the sky,
I start thinking of you,
And then ask myself “why?”

“Why do I love you?”
I think and smile,
Because I know,
The list could run on for mile.

The whisper of your voice,
The warmth of your touch,
So many little things,
Make me love you so much.

The way you support me,
Even my silly notions,
The way that you care,
And show such devotion.

The way that your kiss,
Fills me with desire,
And how you hold me,
With the warmth of a fire.

The way your eyes shine,
When you look at me,
Lost with you forever,
Is where i want to be.

The way that I feel,
When you are by my side,
A sense of completion,
And overflowing pride.

The dreams that I dream,
That all involve you,
The possibilities that I see,
The things that we can do.

How you finish the puzzle,
That lies inside my heart,
How deep in my soul,
You are a very important part.

I could go on for days,
Telling of what I feel,
But all you really must know is…
My love for you is real.

by: Tiffany Marie

Girl meets Boy. Boy asks Girl out. Girl accepts. Boy asks Girl out again. Girl accepts again. Girl asks Boy out. Boy accepts. So, they start going out regularly. And everybody is happy. This goes on for a very long time. But Boy is mum. He keeps his cards close to his chest. And Girl imagines boy is waiting for the right moment.

In the meantime, Girl starts building her hopes. And everyday, her heart beats a little bit faster in anticipation of the future. One day, unable to endure the unknown, she gathers the courage to ask Boy about the future. Boy is stunned. Boy declares he feels only friendship for her. Girl is crushed. What were all those months and years about?

Indeed, why do men and women go out with each other for prolonged periods of time with neither direction nor commitment? Well, although or two may be waiting for the right moment, the majority are simply not ready for direction of commitment so they cruise along in a safe, enjoyable and commitment-free relationship until the bubble bursts.

Almost always, it is the woman who gets hurt because it is usually the women who make the most emotional investment in any relationship. And while men can go out with women and enjoy their company for prolonged period of time with little emotional attachment, women are not as emotionally detached and indifferent.

I think that men and women could avoid so much pain in their lives if they treat each other with greater decency. Most of the time, we know when one is falling in love with the other and whether or not these feelings can be reciprocated. I have always believed that it is no sin to spend one’s time with someone who is also enjoying our company. But it is a great sin to continue to spend time with someone we know fully well is falling in love with us or is already in love with us when we know we can never see this person in the same light.

We may cherish this person’s company. But we cannot continue to spend time with this person. We cannot build hopes of someone we know we can never fall for and or grow to love in the same manner. Decency dictates that we must sever the friendship to save the other, greater pain in the future.

Why do men and women go out with each other for prolonged periods of time without direction and commitment? Because it is convenient. And it’s like having your cake and eating it too. It provides intimacy without commitment. Each can walk out anytime with little fuss and guilt. Because when no words are said and no feelings are declared, the relationship is not deemed binding although more descent human beings would beg to disagree.

I think that these kinds of relationship can serve their own purpose at a particular point in time but only when both parties are fully aware of where they stand. After all, when there are no expectations of each other, there is a little cause of pain. But we don’t live in a perfect world where emotions can be programmed. Even spinsters can fall in love on mad, moonlit nights.

 - reading this reminded me a forwarded text message from a friend which goes:

you can never teach a guy to love the way you want to be loved

you have to wait for him to do it in his own way in his own time

that’s the saddest part of being a girl …

but you can never teach a girl to love the guy back the way she did before

if she already grew tired and fed up understanding and waiting

to be appreciated and loved the way she deserves to be loved …

that’s the saddest part of being an insensitive man.

I asked her can you possibly forward that to him too? So that hopefully he’ll realize? Hahay … hate this  …

He showed me the thread where this was found on Istorya.net; and I agree with him it really is nice. Read on …

THIS IS WHAT THE GIRL TELLS THE GUY

If you see me walking the road with someone else,
It’s not because I like his accompany…
Its because you’re not brave enough to walk beside me.
If you hear me talking about him all the time
Its not because he pleases me
Its because you’re too deaf to hear my heartbeat
If you feel me falling with someone new
Its not because I love him..
But because you’re not there to catch me fall
If you feel lost, I am nowhere
I don’t know where the road is going

Are we gonna cross each other’s path
Or just completely turn around?..

Will we just let go of what we had
Or go to the place where love is bound

Don’t let me walk with him,
It’s you I want to walk with..
Don’t let me talk of him,
it’s you I want to talk with..

Don’t let me fall for him,
It’s you I want to fall in love with..

HOW THE GUY REPLIED

When you thought I wasn’t brave enough to walk beside you
I was behind you every step of the way
Still filled with awe because of the beauty that stand before me
When you thought I was too deaf to hear your heartbeat
I didn’t want to assume anything
And I was afraid to loose our friendship
When you thought I wasn’t there to catch you,
It was because you never gave me the chance
You never reached the bottom,
you’ve already grabbed a branch

If you feel like you are nowhere,
I am lost too
I don’t know where the road is going
Are we just going to turn around,
Or are we gonna cross each other’s path?

Will we just let go of what we had
Or go to the place where love is bound?

Don’t let me walk alone
I want to walk by your side

Don’t let me talk of something else
It’s you I want to talk with

Don’t let me fall for someone else
It’s you I want to fall in love with.